Love is hidden in EVOLution

My middle son got married this weekend.

It was a weekend of extraordinary firsts.

The first of my children to marry. The first time, in more than eight years after separation and divorce, that our extended family gathered together again. The first time I watched my former husband, his partner, our family, and nearly 200 friends all choose something bigger than the past.

We chose love.

As I sat quietly taking it all in, I had a surprising realization:

Evolution has the word LOVE hidden inside it.

For years, as a physician, I believed evolution was primarily about biology—DNA, genes, adaptation, survival. But perhaps our greatest evolution today isn’t genetic at all.

Perhaps it is relational.

Perhaps every time we choose curiosity over judgment, collaboration over competition, compassion over criticism, we evolve.

Watching my son return to joy after years of chronic pain, watching his beautiful bride—herself a nurse shaped by the suffering she witnessed during COVID—choose one another with such courage reminded me that weddings are far more than celebrations.

They are declarations of hope.

They are living proof that connection still matters.

That community matters.

That love is worth betting our lives on.

I wrote about the weekend, about healing, masculine and feminine energies, family, forgiveness, and why I believe love may be humanity’s next great evolutionary leap.

I’d love for you to read it.

👉 Read the full essay on Medium here: [Insert Medium link]

My middle son got married this weekend.

It was a weekend of extraordinary firsts.

The first of my children to marry. The first time, in more than eight years after separation and divorce, that our extended family gathered together again. The first time I watched my former husband, his partner, our family, and nearly 200 friends all choose something bigger than the past.

We chose love.

As I sat quietly taking it all in, I had a surprising realization:

Evolution has the word LOVE hidden inside it.

For years, as a physician, I believed evolution was primarily about biology—DNA, genes, adaptation, survival. But perhaps our greatest evolution today isn’t genetic at all.

Perhaps it is relational.

Perhaps every time we choose curiosity over judgment, collaboration over competition, compassion over criticism, we evolve.

Watching my son return to joy after years of chronic pain, watching his beautiful bride—herself a nurse shaped by the suffering she witnessed during COVID—choose one another with such courage reminded me that weddings are far more than celebrations.

They are declarations of hope.

They are living proof that connection still matters.

That community matters.

That love is worth betting our lives on.

I wrote about the weekend, about healing, masculine and feminine energies, family, forgiveness, and why I believe love may be humanity’s next great evolutionary leap.

I’d love for you to read it.

👉 Read the full essay on Medium here:

And after you’ve read it, I’d love to hear your answer to one question:

Where is life inviting you to choose love over fear this week?

With gratitude,
Dr Tina